How does a parent tell if his or her child is an underachiever? If so, how does a parent motivate a son or daughter to consistently perform at a higher level in school? As it turns out, recognizing an underachiever is much easier than nurturing one.
According to Dr. Whitley’s book, “Bright Minds, Poor Grades”, students who routinely perform below their own personal standards usually require a patient, concerted, and persistent regimen of adult supervision to keep them on track. Also, developing the child’s emotional and cognitive awareness are invaluable tools in helping the child mature, much more so than traditional methods of punishment. Though the short-term benefits of Dr. Whitley's program are sometimes negligible, the child will, through a greater self-knowledge, have the confidence to solve his or her own problems in the long-term.
Much to my dismay, the book is fairly long-winded and the doctor discusses his ideas in a circular, meticulous fashion. However, what makes this book a joy to read are all the little precious nuggets of wisdom sprinkled through out. (e.g. He points out adults should place sole emphasis on guiding a child toward attainment of self-made goals as opposed to admonishing the child for making poor grades.)
If you're an adult and your child shows any of the following symptoms highlighted from Dr. Whitley’s book, I highly recommend reading a copy.
Diagnosing Underachievers
• Shows intelligence, but grades fluctuate
• Lacks focus
• Has little or no self-discipline
• Underachievement pervades through all aspects of life
Characteristics of an Underachiever
• Lacks self-discipline
• Lacks self-awareness
• Lacks self-mastery
• Tells lies
• Makes excuses
• Dislikes responsibility
• Blames others for failures
• Scared of added responsibility when successful
Different Types of Underachievers
• Shy Type
• Procrastinator
• Martyr
• Hidden Perfectionist
• Socialite
• Con Artist
The above helps a parent or instructor recognize an underachiever, but in order to guide the student down the road to maturity, a parent might want to follow the Ten Step Program outlined in the book. This program includes:
• Establishing open and honest communication between parent and child
• Helping the child set up his or her own short-term and long-term goals
• Talking with the child about potential problems encountered when pursuing goals
• Guiding the child in thinking of practical solutions to these obstacles
• Redefining success as the complete fulfillment of proposed actions
• Helping the child explore his or her emotional reaction to future decisions
It goes without saying this program is quite tedious and will place a huge burden on a parent’s time and patience. Plus, grade improvement is not guaranteed, since it is the student who sets the academic goals. However, the book believes that following the program will at the very least set a lasting example showing the child the importance and benefits of planning ahead.
Bright Minds, Poor Grades
